Are you using food, to change your mood?
Food buffers. It medicates. It smooths the edges off the difficult emotions.
So I'll be honest...learning to feel instead of push down our feelings with food isn't easy. It takes courage. It means giving yourself permission to stop being busy. And it takes time. Time to learn new patterns. Time to deal with all the "stuff" that comes up in life. Time to feel.
And sometimes that's exactly what we don't want to do. We don't want to feel the hurt, the sadness, the guilt, the anger, the stress...
But here's the thing...
If we block out the more difficult feelings we numb ALL our feelings. The result is a life lived in the grey, because we also miss out on truly experiencing the high vibe feelings of joy and excitement.
To be human is to feel. I don't know who first said that but it's true. But who said that all our feelings should be positive all the time?
Learning to face the challenging stuff from a place of self-love and compassion opens the door to more joy, and closes the need for food for comfort.
It means letting go of avoiding the stuff you wish would just go away and stopping pretending that you're fine.
That's why I hold a safe and loving space for my clients to process emotions and create new healthy ways of coping.
Learning to feel again is one part of the journey out of comfort eating.