Your Magic Isn't Meant To Be Like Anyone Else's

"Your magic isn't meant to be like anyone else's."

This is such a great message!

If you're anything like me you know you shouldn't compare yourself to others ... but it's easier said than done.

Even after a sustained healthy weight loss over the last 18 months where I'm slimmer than I was pre-pregnancy (nearly 14 years ago!) I'm wondering why my body doesn't feel "good enough" or "thin enough" yet.

Comparison really can be the enemy of happiness ... unless we're using comparison to feel incredibly grateful for all that we have and all that we are.

But often we're comparing ourselves to advertising campaigns. Magazine covers. Social media posts.

It's a perception of a perfect lifestyle to aspire to. A perfect body to work towards. All of which we think will bring happiness.

Usually it plunges us into 'lack', feelings of 'not good enough' and 'not there yet'.

But on the beach this weekend I started to look at REAL people. People making the most of the sun. People simply making memories with their families. Some kids crying and some kids laughing. REAL women who, like me, aren't genetically programmed to be six feet tall and ultra skinny.

I felt normal. And sometimes normal feels good.

My 3 lessons were:

1. Even when we are at our healthiest, we are all still designed to look different.  Like the flowers in a garden, we are all designed to be different shapes and sizes.  All are beautiful.

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2. We decide what we feed our minds. We decide if we compare, and who we compare with. We need to be careful what we allow in, because perception is everything.

3. Our self-image and self-worth is tied to how we feel about ourselves far more than what the scales say and what dress size we wear … learning to feel worthy and love ourselves no matter what is some of the most important work we can ever do for ourselves.  xx

Bethan Louise